Recognition isn’t Attention-Seeking. It’s a Fundamental Human Need
In Maslow’s hierarchy of needs, recognition (or esteem) sits just below self-actualisation. That means we can’t fully become who we’re capable of being - creative, fulfilled, expansive - without first feeling appreciated and respected by others.
And yet, many introverts and quieter professionals struggle with the idea of wanting recognition. They don’t want to seem needy or attention-seeking. They quietly do their jobs well, hoping their effort will speak for itself.
You might tell yourself:
“I don’t need praise.”
“It’s enough to do a good job.”
“It feels awkward to ask for recognition.”
But recognition isn’t attention-seeking. It’s a healthy, normal - and fundamental - human need.
The problem is that when you dismiss your need for recognition, or if you tend to stay in the background or avoid self-promotion, you may be less likely to receive it - no matter how valuable your contributions are.
That can lead to frustration or self-doubt. You might start to wonder if your efforts even matter, or feel disheartened watching others be praised for things you know you do quietly, consistently, and well.
If you’ve ever felt unappreciated or invisible at work, you're not alone. And you're not wrong to want more.
The good news is that there are ways to invite more recognition without the need to self promote.
It starts with understanding that wanting to be recognised is not a weakness. It’s a human need. And when your work is seen and valued, it leads to greater satisfaction, motivation, and even career progression.
Have you ever considered what kind of recognition matters most to you?
Most introverts don’t appreciate being in the spotlight, yet a simple ‘thank you’ or ‘well done’ can go a long way.
Similarly, being recognised for something that has little meaning for you risks being overlooked or disregarded.
Ask yourself: what is it important for you to be recognised for?
Is it your deep thinking? Your ability to stay calm under pressure? Your reliability or leadership behind the scenes?
When you know what matters most to you, you can start to shape how others see and appreciate your strengths - on your terms.
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